Dealing with your divorced parents

Part of the reason why people think ‘Shit happens’ in life is because terrible things, such as divorce, happen. Seeing your parents separate can and will send you to psychological torture and emotional maximum prison. How do you survive through it and maintain a decent relationship with your divorcing folks?

Obviously the most appropriate way to deal with such a situation is to not get involved. Mom hates dad now because she is off the rails, your mother despises your father because he can’t make her orgasm, the reason for divorce could be anything. What you don’t have is a reason to get involved and take sides between the  hateful two.

Depending on who wears the pants in the now collapsing marriage, children are likely to be polarized and gravitate towards one of the separating, more friendly parents. Minors who find themselves in the middle of divorce tend to take their mom’s side. While adults are much more likely to be liberal and stay neutral. Very keen to avoid having to choose between the lesser evil and the greater good.

Divorce makes people want to take away everything they can from the marriage. Where a prenup is not in place, your mom can and will look for the best opportunity to pack everything at home and move to a new residence. Fathers are hardly ever at home. Chances are you are the only one who can help your mom pack and move. What do you do when she asks for your help? Do you obey and partake? In such a scenario, it is best for you to be hands off, plug in your ear pieces and listen to Rap Caviar or catch up with the latest Midnight Gospel.

You might start to notice a pattern here. It appears the best approach towards dealing with your parents when they are divorcing is the hands off approach. Avoid taking sides. Avoid trying to mediate the situation. Avoid thinking they should do what’s best for the kids. Allow them the freedom to choose what’s best for either of them.